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Do you feel shame around your relationship with food and your body? Are you worried about disclosing your eating behavior to a current partner or loved one? Do you find yourself thinking about food all the time? Listen now for some concrete solutions to overcome these barriers to food peace.
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Episode's Key Points:
- Shame is so common in the eating disorder experience!!
- Antonia Hartley joins to help tackle this letter writer's struggles...
- Eating disorders make us feel so alone and isolated, but there are many people dealing with the same issues.
- Insight and awareness are vital to finding recovery and healing, but it can only take you so far. It's important to work with a dietitian or other eating disorder professional to find lasting recovery and make changes!
- Finding a Health at Every Size dietitian to work with is SUPER important to make sure you're in a safe environment to find help.
- If you're thinking about food all day long, definitely inquire if you're eating enough! Sometimes restriction is physical or mental, and adequacy with food is very important!! If you're bingeing, it's likely that you're NOT getting enough, no matter what size you are.
- It's NOT as simple as calories in, calories out. Our metabolism is MUCH more complicated than that!
- Sometimes there is fear in letting go of our eating disorder because there is a small part of us that feels these diet rules are serving us in some way... but they're not!
- "Honesty is the antithesis of eating disorder behavior." - Antonia
- Relationships are SO important in eating disorder recovery! Be honest with those you love, and set the boundaries around triggers.
- Eating behaviors can be a messenger for our emotions or our needs... listen to them!
- If you're in a situation where someone in your life is consistently triggering you, don't be afraid to bring them into a therapy session with you to parse out exactly what you need from them as a loved one. Remember, we live in diet-culture world, so give your loved ones some time to adjust to this new way of life!
- Be aware of your own internalized fat stigma when exploring recovery.
- You weren't born with food rules!! These are LEARNED behaviors and "truths."
- Checking back in with your treatment team post-recovery is SO important! Remember, we live in a world that hasn't recovered from its own eating disorder, so having a supportive community around you is essential for maintaining recovery.
- On feminism: Feminism is for everyone, not just women! Ending sexism is good for everyone.
- Ending weight stigma helps everyone!
Show Notes:
- Link to subscribe to the weekly FREE Food Peace Newsletter. It is sent out every Tuesday morning and no spam EVER. By signing up, I will also send you Love Food's Season 1's Food Peace Syllabus.
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- Weight Science: Evaluating the Evidence for a Paradigm Shift by Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramor mentioned in this episode
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Feminism is for Everybody by bell hooks ---> This week's Food Peace Syllabus addition
- Find Antonia on Instagram and Twitter!
- Eating Disorder Dietitian
- Julie Dillon RD blog
Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com.
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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.
Do you deal with binge eating? Did you experience bullying, specifically within your own family, that relates to your body shape or size? Have you experienced sexual abuse, and feel that it has impacted your relationship with food and your body? Are you trying to set a healthy example for your own children after having a difficult relationship with food in your past? Listen now for some expert advice on how to cope with these body trust struggles.
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Check out this summer's special blog post series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. It aims to help you understand PCOS, improve your relationship with food, and advocate for better care. You will be hearing from nutrition grad student Kimberly Singh and her experiences with PCOS as well as evidenced based info to help arm yourself with the most up-to-date research. Find it here now: JulieDillonRD.com/PCOSseries
Episode's Key Points:
- Sometimes our family environments can be just as toxic as this culture that we live in... remember, we ALL live in diet culture!! But that doesn't make our family's actions okay.
- Abuse, physical or mental, can have a profound impact on our relationship with food and our body.
- Lindsay Stenovec of The Nurtured Mama joins to talk about the complex interactions of motherhood and our relationship with food!
- Processing this kind of trauma is essential... find a therapist to work through these difficult emotions and to help you cope with your past!
- Sometimes we use food to cope with our emotions... this is totally understandable, but we can take steps to help heal this part of our relationship with food if we find it interfering with us living our lives.
- We are all doing the very best that we can under our own circumstances! This doesn't make us a failure or a fraud.
- How do we feed others when we've had such a fraught relationship with food and body ourselves?
- As parents, we do our best to shield our children from pain, especially from pain that we have experienced ourselves. Many mamas are trying to shield their children from the pain that they themselves experienced in relation to food and body... but sometimes this backfires when parents do so by trying to get their children to lose weight or to eat in a "perfect" way.
- Feeling acceptable is SO important to finding body peace and body trust! Instead of repeating the same cycle of trying to control your own child's food intake or body shape, focus on the unconditional acceptance you have for your child and help them to foster this body acceptance in themselves, no matter the outside influences.
- We should ALWAYS feel safe at home, even if we live in diet-culture world!
- We're all just doing the best that we can!!
- What does it mean to eat in a "healthy" way? How do we make peace with food and our bodies?
- Ellyn Satter's definition of normal eating is a helpful resource!!
- Healthy eating is more about being connected to life, not about what we put in our bodies.
- Our relationship with food and our bodies is about very complicated, difficult, and personal truths. It has to do with the food, but it also doesn't! Our past has a HUGE impact on all of this, and it's SO important to find support around figuring all of this stuff out. Find a trauma, Health at Every Size, and eating-disorder-trained therapist or dietitian to help you along this journey!!
- Raising children brings up the difficult parts in ourselves that still need more work.
- Going to therapy is a BRAVE choice! It is hard, but it gives us the tools to move forward in our lives and find healing.
- Stress, discomfort, and feeling like a fraud are messages from our body! These emotions mean there is something that needs to be addressed within.
- Secretive eating, shame, and hiding of food is an understandable reaction to growing up in an environment that body and food shamed you! The important question is not, "How do I stop," but, "What do these actions tell me about my needs?"
- Sometimes we don't learn sustainable coping skills as a child... therapy can help us bolster our toolbox of coping mechanisms as adults!
- Normal eating is FLEXIBLE!!! Normal eating is trusting our body to make up for our "mistakes" in our eating, and being compassionate about our choices.
- In the end, it is JUST food.
- When you trust your body to take care of yourself, it'll do the best that it can.
Show Notes:
- Link to subscribe to the weekly FREE Food Peace Newsletter. It is sent out every Tuesday morning and no spam EVER. By signing up, I will also send you Love Food's Season 1's Food Peace Syllabus.
- Check out the Empowering Your PCOS Journey Series.
- Lindsay Stenovec's first episode on the Love, Food Podcast
- Ellyn Satter's definition of "normal eating"
- Secrets to Feeding a Healthy Family by Ellyn Satter ---> This week's Food Syllabus addition #1
- The Nurtured Mama Program & Community with Lindsay Stenovec ---> This week's Food Syllabus addition #2
- Eating Disorder Dietitian
- Julie Dillon RD blog
Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com.
Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!
Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.
Do you tend to eat on the couch and with distractions, rather than at the dining room table? Are you someone that avoids the dining room table because of past trauma related to mealtime? Are you just trying to navigate this whole food peace journey, and are looking for some direction? Listen now for some steps you can take today.
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Check out this summer's special blog post series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. It aims to help you understand PCOS, improve your relationship with food, and advocate for better care. You will be hearing from nutrition grad student Kimberly Singh and her experiences with PCOS as well as evidenced based info to help arm yourself with the most up-to-date research.
We are so excited to release our first blog post on Wednesday June 14th.
Episode's Key Points:
- Vulnerability is a part of healing our relationship with food, but there is also a time and place for NOT being vulnerable! It's all about balance.
- Rachel Cole joins to talk more about vulnerability and food peace!
- Having a nourishing and safe place during mealtime as a child is super important! If we don't have that, it can really impact our relationship with food and eating in adulthood.
- Expand your choices!! Your food behavior shouldn't be dictated but "should's," but instead by what you honestly want to do.
- There's a time and a place for non-distracted eating, but don't force it!
- Eat where you feel SAFE.
- There's no timeline, should's, or black and white thinking... it's all about being "choiceful!"
- Pleasure is an important part of the eating experience, and we should embrace that. Make sure that the food you're eating is something that you WANT to experience.
- How do we re-parent our traumatized childhood selves without giving them all the power? Reach out to a therapist to work through this struggle, and have an active dialogue with that child!
- Put in the effort to make the dining area welcoming and safe... create a warm environment, and make the area available to you with zero pressure to eat there.
- Make small steps... what would it be like to have one meal at the table? Or just a cup of tea? Start with the lowest hanging fruit! Immerse yourself in the experience with non-judgmental awareness.
- We should strive to make ALL areas of our literal and metaphorical houses welcoming and comfortable for us.
- Have compassion for the ways that we take care of ourselves, even if our coping mechanisms aren't the most sustainable!!
- If your experience doesn't feel good, start getting curious about what would make it feel better.
- EXPERIMENT!! Explore, get feedback from your body and your emotions, and continue to check in.
- We are the expert of our own bodies... connect to your body, embrace embodiment, and explore body trust!
- Listen to a podcast or invite or call a friend while eating if you're feeling lonely and want company, and don't feel like watching the television.
- Don't be afraid to reach out for support in any capacity to help you through this food peace journey!
Show Notes:
- Link to subscribe to the weekly FREE Food Peace Newsletter. It is sent out every Tuesday morning and no spam EVER. By signing up, I will also send you Love Food's Season 1's Food Peace Syllabus.
- "Dieting is a Violent Act" by Rachel Cole
- Finding Yourself in the Kitchen by Dana Velden
- Rachel Cole's FEAST program <--This program looks AMAZING and EMPOWERING!!
- Eating Disorder Dietitian
- Julie Dillon RD blog
Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com.
Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!
Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.
Are you worried about your bikini body? Does vacation food make your anxiety spike and start the inner dialogue of self-loathing? Is preoccupation with your body getting in the way of you enjoying time spent adventuring? Listen now to hear my tips from a previous Love, Food Podcast episode on how to start living in the moment.
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Episode's Key Points:
- Food should help us enjoy life MORE, not detract from the experience.
- The best way to keep yourself bingeing while on vacation is to restrict before, and plan to restrict after. A lack of permission throughout the year leads to "indulging" while away!
- When you're on vacation, you're there to enjoy the food and experience life the way another culture does... not to obsess over what you're eating and how it may or may not be impacting your body size.
- How do we work on permission to help prevent this kind of preoccupation about food and body during vacation?
- Think about a pendulum (courtesy of Maria Paredes)... if we don't interrupt the calm sway, the highs and lows stay pretty even-keeled. This is what an intuitive, normal relationship with food looks like! If we eat past fullness for any reason, the pendulum adjusts and we eat less at some point in relation to our intuitive hunger signals to make up for it. This is how our body takes care of us! BUT if we look at the pendulum another way, with a disordered relationship with food, we can see violent swings back and forth between restriction and bingeing. SO the only way to stop it from moving violently in the bingeing direction is to STOP pulling in the direction of restriction!
- Take a hands-off approach!!
- Check out my blog post to learn how to slow down that pendulum!
- It's ABNORMAL to have a competent relationship with food in our culture!!
- Being human is about following rhythms... the seasons, hunger... we can't contain these rhythms, but we should trust them!
- When we step away from diets, it's NATURAL to experience a feeling of rebellion. The best way to bypass this rebellion is to immerse yourself in this "vacation brain" while you're at home.
- Eating when you're hungry and stopping when you're full is simple, but it's NOT easy!
- Unconditional permission is FUNDAMENTAL to food peace and intuitive eating.
- Restricting food will only lead to bingeing, and if you want to have a vacation experience free from food preoccupation and filled with cultural immersion, it's time to take away the food rules and diet talk during your regular, everyday life.
- Always remember to reach out to an eating disorder dietitian to help you on your food peace journey!
Show Notes:
- Link to subscribe to the weekly FREE Food Peace Newsletter. It is sent out every Tuesday morning and no spam EVER. By signing up, I will also send you Love Food's Season 1's Food Peace Syllabus.
- Start your private practice! Click here and use code BOSS to get 10% off Jennifer McGurk's Pursuing Private Practice Masterclass!
- Maria Paredes' Love, Food Podcast episode
- Aaron Flores' Love, Food Podcast episode
- "When relying on hunger is too scary" by Julie Duffy Dillon
- Eating Disorder Dietitian
- Julie Dillon RD blog
Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com.